sessions with kadhi bo

Hi there! Thanks for your interest in this work. My name is Kadhi Bo (kah-dee bow) and I am a transformative counselor based in the beautiful Sierra Nevada hills of Northern California. I recommend reading through this page to gain an understanding of what you can expect from working with me. If you have any questions that remain unanswered, feel free to send me an email or book a free intro call so I can address your curiosities.

Somatic PSYCHOtherapy | spiritual mentorship | Relational coaching

This work helps individuals get unstuck and reclaim their power so they can show up authentically and live the life they truly desire. Equipped with tools, practices, and a renewed mindset, my clients are more able to meet what comes their way with confidence and skill.

I offer a blend of somatic psychotherapy, mentoring, and coaching aimed at supporting one’s healing and personal development. Sessions focus on helping clients cultivate greater self-awareness and understanding of their patterns and limitations in order to develop healthier behaviors and more skillful ways of being with self and others.

PEOPLE SEEK THIS WORK IN ORDER TO:

• get unstuck / move through stagnancy

• stop people pleasing, have better boundaries & self-care

• learn healthier patterns of behavior and stop self-sabotaging

• outgrow victim mentality and find their power again

• break free of dysfunctional or codependent bonds in relationships

• cope and move through difficult circumstances and crises

• learn how to maintain healthy boundaries and assert one’s needs effectively

• heal old, persistent wounds that keep showing up

• leave a toxic relationship / break free from a narcissist

• recover from divorce or a break-up

• receive skillful guidance on how to navigate different areas of life

• heal childhood trauma and wounds

• grieve and make sense of loss

• have a clear sounding board

• get permission to show up fully authentic and free
  

For the first sessions we spend much of the time hearing the scope of the challenges and the client’s history as it pertains to the issues. I’ll ask some questions along the way, guiding the inquiry. Following sessions see an incorporation of various methods to help deepen the work (a somatic journey, inner child work, reparenting...etc) - more about my these techniques below in the METHODS section.

I weave in my training in Hakomi Mindfulness-Centered Somatic Psychotherapy and a multitude of spiritual teachings with fluidity into the sessions. The 20+ years of personal growth work, spiritual seeking, and studies with many mentors and masters along the way inform the ground I draw from. I gather much inspiration and wisdom from Buddhist teachings, plant medicine work, Jungian depth psychology, Peter Levine’s work on trauma, archetypes and mythology, eastern mysticism and philosophies, the enneagram, and astrology.

In recent years, I have become a devoted student of my primary teacher, Jennifer Welwood, who’s psycho-spiritual weaving of Vajrayana Buddhism and western psychotherapy has guided, shaped and fortified my path as practitioner and healer. I meet with her several times a month in group sessions and attend intensive retreats with her four times a year.

This work is rooted in my deep fascination of the human experience in all of its many expressions from the messy to the mundane to the miraculous. I lead with a rich and loving curiosity to understand the underlying psycho-spiritual elements at play in one’s life, and work within the lens that this universe is one of benevolence.

I strive to offer a clear mirror to explore yourself within - free of judgment, full of love and acceptance, and fortified by my trust in the inevitability of one’s healing.

WHAT AREAS DO I SPECIALIZE IN?

While I welcome inquiries of all natures, I am particularly drawn to working with the following themes:

• unveiling the root causes of challenging patterns and releasing their control over one’s behaviors

• relationship material - communication and boundary coaching, understanding attachment styles, codependency awareness, figuring out one’s needs and values in relationship, recovering from abuse, grappling with the age-old question, “should I stay or should I go?”

• inner child healing and repair work / re-parenting - an essential process in the healing journey.

• grief work - identifying and releasing repressed emotions

• spiritual and emotional alchemy - using life’s obstacles and pain as alchemical fuel to propel one’s blooming and becoming

• getting unstuck - understand why one is frozen and what is needed to thaw out.

• shadow integration - working with your triggers and identifying blindspots especially in relationships (platonic, familial, professional, or romantic)

• breaking through stubborn limitations and making space for a more empowered and embodied Self to emerge

AREAS I DO NOT SPECIALIZE IN: Please note that I do not work with individuals who have severe trauma, active substance abuses issues, or psychiatric diagnoses (e.g. clinical depression, PTSD, eating disorders, bipolar disorder, BPD, panic disorder, OCD, NPD, phobias, psychosis or other psychiatric diagnosis).

my Methods

Depending on the nature of the material a client is bringing, I will draw on several different techniques and styles of support.

Some clients are looking for more of a talk-therapy format to work through an issue, while others are seeking mentorship and guidance from me to help them learn how to show up in the world more fully actualized and skillful.

For those struggling with stubborn patterns, feelings of being stuck, and behaviors that feel beyond their control, I utilize the Parts Work method. This tool allows us to gain access to and investigate the active layers of being, or “parts” within one’s psyche. With better understanding of one’s active parts as they relate to a specific behavior, we can identify what each layer requires and provide that much-needed care and nourishment so it can release its grip from the client’s “steering wheel.” As a result, a client’s emotional gridlock dissolves, giving way to a sense of relief, greater compassion toward self, and an expanded capacity to meet previously difficult issues. This process of integrating and caring for one’s forgotten, neglected, traumatized or shadow parts is deeply healing and transformative.

I will typically encourage utilizing the Hakomi Somatic Psychotherapy method to guide a client into a state of mindfulness where we can access keys in their somatic body and subconscious that unlock greater awareness, integration, and healing of their core material. These gentle yet powerful somatic journeys into mindfulness last between 25-35 minutes and take place in the middle of an hour-long session.

Inner-Child Repair and Re-Parenting processes are also highly effective tools of transformation and are frequently utilized in the sessions. I have found that these processes have some of the biggest impacts on one’s healing because we contact and heal wounds at the root level. Clients are often surprised to discover how many of their present-day issues have ties to childhood wounding.

For certain tenacious issues, I use a different technique based on the work that Lama Tsultrim Allione has pioneered called Feeding Your Demons where we approach the issue with curiosity and loving kindness to learn what it needs in order to finally release its hold on our psyche.

RECOMMENDED FREQUENCY OF SESSIONS

I currently only accept clients who wish to work with me weekly or biweekly (every other week) over a period of 2-6+ months.

The work has the potential to change a client’s life from the root level all the way up. This kind of life-changing transformation takes time and dedication so that the healing and newly implemented patterns have a chance to become firmly established. The issues clients typically need help changing are often patterns that have been active within them for years to decades. These deeply ingrained habitual behaviors take time and persistence to dislodge, unravel and re-pattern. The investment clients make in the work they do enables them to reap the rewards for the rest of their lives in the form of more skillfulness and emotional maturity, greater quality of life and well-being, more fulfilling and healthier relationships, freely expressed authenticity, access to tools and skills to navigate whatever life brings..etc.

Furthermore, deep healing work can only happen when there’s a level of trust and safety felt in the therapeutic container - and this can take a handful of sessions to cultivate. The further we go together, the deeper we can go together. It’s important to have patience in the beginning of a transformational journey, especially if you are new to this kind of work.

Well-established clients who’ve completed an intensive period of work with me will often stay connected once a month for “maintenance” sessions to support their continued growth, or will return periodically to get support on a new issue.

All sessions are voluntary and there is no obligation to continue care with me once you feel complete with what you’ve received in our sessions.

AM I the RIGHT FIT FOR YOU?

The clients who seek my support yearn for: greater quality of life, more fulfilling relationships, getting unstuck, accessing authentic expression, freedom from self-limitations, empowerment and clarity, pattern-breaking, healing of old wounds, and more aliveness and purpose in their life.

The ones who receive the greatest benefit from the work are those who are truly ready for breakthroughs and are willing to do the inner work to achieve their goals. Individuals who are self-motivated, or at the very least possess the desire to grow, and are willing to venture into inner landscapes that can be uncomfortable at times are well-suited for this work.

I cannot do the work for you, nor can I “fix” your problems (no one can, and those who promise this offer you a disempowering disservice). But I can guide you in the dark, supporting your healing and transformation with various methods and tools, and I can coach you while you take brave steps in a new direction. Contrary to the traditional paradigm of healthcare in western society, in my practice the client is responsible for their progress and I serve as an assistant on their path of self-study and self-healing. I can only meet you where you are willing to go, and I cannot do more of the work than you are willing to do yourself.

Transformation requires a combination of active participation, persistence, courage, patience, trust and a willingness to feel difficult feelings. The clients who bring these qualities to the work will undoubtedly experience progress, breakthroughs and transformation in time.

A sincere goal I have for my clients is that they become resourceful and empowered self-healers. Through this work, you’ll have the chance to develop the skills and awareness to navigate future issues on your own. I feel most accomplished and in service to one’s sovereignty and unfoldment when my clients “graduate” from needing my support on a particular issue in their life.

I also hold the unwavering belief that the person sitting before me is unbroken and fully capable of healing and transformation. I do not collude with a client’s limiting stories they hold about themselves. Instead, I hold steady to the KNOWING of their inherent wholeness and that healing is inevitable within a supportive container.

Logistical pieces

Each session is 60 minutes long and can either be conducted over zoom, by phone or in-person at my home office in Nevada City, CA. I primarily work with women from all over the world, comprised of all ages, genders, sexual orientations, religions and races. I do not currently work with couples.

First sessions for new clients are offered at a discounted rate. You can read more about my rates and package deals here. If you’re curious to explore what’s possible between us, schedule a free intro call to connect with me and assess our fit.

My CODE of ethics and values

I vow to be helpful, compassionate, kind, non-judgmental, discrete, respectful, and unconditionally accepting in my work with clients. I value integrity, loving-kindness, awakening, honesty, and spiritual growth. The truth will always set us free, no matter how uncomfortable it may make us feel in the moment of revelation. I strive to honor the truths that want to be revealed by sharing them with grace, compassion, and directness while respecting each client’s unique pace and path of unfoldment.

I respect the privacy of prospective and current clients and hold a person’s information and healing journey in the utmost confidence. I request private information from clients only when it is beneficial to the counseling process. Clients enter into a working relationship with me voluntarily and are free to leave at any point. Additionally, I reserve the right to terminate care based on the premise of either my own limitations, a client’s disregard for my policies, or any other assessment I may have of incompatibility. I provide professional assistance to persons without discrimination on the basis of race, age, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, disability, gender, health status, religion, national origin, sexual orientation, gender identity or relationship status.

Every single client that I have the privilege of sitting with reaffirms my love of this work and invigorates my devotion to being in service to one’s healing journey of self-discovery and liberation.

*Kadhi Bo is not a licensed therapist or counselor and cannot be held liable for any events and developments in the life of the client or the client's family. Kadhi is a coach, consultant, educator, guide and companion. She is not recognized by the state as being professionally equipped to address suicidal ideation or self-harm and cannot take responsibility for either.